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You can hit some targets more easily if you don’t aim for them.
This is especially true for conscious states, like feelings.
Anxiety amplifies if you are stressed over your anxiety. Frustration grows when you become frustrated at the fact that you’re frustrated. Striving after happiness merely makes its absence more deeply felt.
The intention to annihilate negative emotions defeats itself.
Emotions are shaped by our judgments. Different people can be in the exact same situation, yet experience it differently. The circumstances are the same; the interpretations are distinct.
Joy and anxiety derive from distinct kinds of thoughts and beliefs. Anxiety involves the opinion that there's something worth being nervous about–that something worth protecting is threatened. On the other hand, joy involves the positive judgment that the good, wonderful, and enriching is present.
By aiming to remove the feelings associated with anxiety, we need to directly take on the idea that something worth protecting is threatened. We can do that by realizing that this is not so or by removing the threat.
Negative feedback loops occur when our target is: I do not want to experience these feelings. After all, they are the fruit of something more fundamental. By aiming to remove anxiety we reinforce the opinion that anxiety is bad and do nothing to change our circumstances.
This phenomenon is seen in the pursuit of happiness too. In Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning we read:
What do the best archers pursue? They want to be excellent archers. That is the target. The fundamental goal isn’t to feel like an excellent archer. It’s not “I want to win this year’s archery contest.” Their purpose is not subject to internal whims or external fortune. It is simply the desire to be excellent.
Pause and consider whether you’re pursuing any self-defeating targets. Turn your attention to a self-sustaining one.
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✍️ This piece is adapted from my personal blog. I use that newsletter for more theoretical and exploratory work, as well as sharing what I’m reading.
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